One of the first things I wanted to point out about this blog and life in general is that the terms simple and easy are often interchanged.
However in the world of self improvement and change, they are very different things.
You’ll find almost all self-improvement changes are fundamentally simple:
- Focus on one thing at a time, don’t multitask
- Eat healthier to be healthier
- Do the most important thing first to be more productive
- Exercise to improve your mind and body
- Focus on what is truly important and ignore what is irrelevant
These aren’t hard concepts to understand. In fact they can be stated in sentence. Sure, there are details e.g. what is meant by “exercise” that
take more explanation, but the details don’t change the fundamental principles of each one of these concepts.
The problem lies in the fact that people confuse simple with easy. In many cases this couldn’t be further from the truth.
If it were easy to do all these simple things, there wouldn’t be a mass-market for self improvement media.
This is one of the core themes of this blog. Most of the principles you’ll come across are simple, or often just common sense. That’s not the
issue, just because you understand something doesn’t mean you do it (otherwise why would people choose to continue smoking for example?)
Taking the easy way out, always has a price. Often that price is hidden (or small in each instance), and in the moment, because it is the path of least resistance, everything is good, until you find you keep paying that price over and over and over again. Suddenly it becomes very high.
That all sounds a bit cryptic, take the classic issue of blaming someone or something else for a problem. This is the classic easy way out. The hard way, would be, despite the situation to take responsibility for the problem. Note this doesn’t mean taking fault, it means realising that the problem is something you and you alone need to deal with to build your character.
The easy way is to blame everything else but yourself, and shift the problem away from you. It works nicely in the short turn. It takes away the problem, the pain and any other emotion associated with it and puts it squarely on someone or something else. Done!
Except, over time, it depletes your character. You pay the cost of not being able to shoulder any burdens and over time, it means you no longer can. When a problem does surface that is clearly yours alone to deal with, now what? You breakdown because you didn’t build the strength and courage to deal with all the other preceding ones that would have helped you here. Now, that problem escalates into something that damages your core being. In isolation, the problem may be minor, but still you don’t know how to cope, because you’ve forgotten what it takes to deal with such a situation.
This is the price you pay for taking the easy way out, time and time again.